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WHY DO WE LOVE VACATIONS?


We all seem to love vacations.
We look forward to it when we know it is upcoming. Feel terrible when it's about to end and miss it once we are back.
What about vacations make us go through these emotions?

Here is what I feel.

It is on a vacation, that we feel in control.
We feel we have control over our time, over when we get up, when we sleep.
This is why if we ever go on a vacation with someone who controls our time, we feel like it is the worst vacation ever!

It is on a vacation, that we escape our reality.
For a moment we let go of the toxic office, our toxic relationships, the stress in our lives, the lack of accomplishment.
This is why if we ever go on a vacation with work in our mind, or with the same people that we want to run away from, we feel like it was not a vacation at all!

It is on a vacation, that we get a sense of progress.
Checking off destinations, visiting all the planned spots, playing those games, reading those books, sleeping those hours.
This is why if we ever go on a vacation where there is no agenda, we tend to feel just as tired as we were when we went on the vacation.

This sense of control, this escaping our reality and this sense of progress - is what comprises the feeling of a vacation.

Which is why - if you feel these things in your life already - if you always have a sense of control, if you do not need to escape your reality and if you know you are always progressing, you will rarely feel the need to go on a vacation!

A vacation, for most of us, is an escape, from our life.
Which will always result in this feeling of "why is this getting over?"
When the right feeling should be "I can't wait to go back to my life."

Instead of wondering when your next vacation is, maybe you should set up a life you don't need to escape from.
- Seth Godin

MISTAKES I MADE IN MY RELATIONSHIPS


In this week's podcast episode, I talk about the mistakes I made in my relationships and what I learnt from them.
I hope you benefit from my experiences here :)

Check it out on Spotify, Amazon Music, Apple Podcast, JioSaavn or Gaana

BOOK I AM READING RIGHT NOW


This week I took an off from reading. And did not read a single page! I missed it, but didn't feel guilty about it.
The week was instead spent on watching videos (for a change) and reading online articles.

I followed Richard Branson's flight to space, wrote a thread on 20 Habits for your 20s, released a video on my fitness journey and Life Insurance, and wrote down almost 5 pages of thoughts :)

Oh - I was in Bhimtal this week. Here is a glimpse of what I experienced.

Trek to Pari Taal (close to Bhimtal, Uttarakhand)

QUOTES TO SHARE


Companies tell employees to keep their salaries a secret to hide the fact that they have no basis to determine these salaries.
(share on twitter)

Few things make me happier than reading a resume that has consciously chosen to not follow a template. The experience/achievements/degrees don't matter. The "act of rebel" is the resume itself!
(share on twitter)

The worst leaders never take tough people decisions.
(share on twitter)

It's only much later in life that you realize that NOTHING was worth it if you aren't happy with your life. By which time, it's too late!
(share on twitter)

If you feel compelled to keep the world perpetually in awe of you or your life, then they own your life!
(share on twitter)

RESPONSES TO LAST WEEK'S QUESTION


Last week I asked all of you -

What do you think is life's purpose?

  1. To earn money
  2. To be happy
  3. To be a good person
  4. To have meaningful relationships
  5. Life has no purpose

If you have noticed, I have also started to ask your age. Because the split of age gives such precious nuances to the responses.

Here are the age-wise responses:

Notice 3 things:
1. How the "life has no purpose" begins to increase as people grow older.
2. How the importance of money (which as it is was low) reduces even further.
3. How meaningful relationships take over, at the expense of "be a good person" or "be happy".

It is like older people know something that younger ones don't :)

For me - I am in the category where I do not think life has any purpose :)

THIS WEEK'S QUESTION


When do you think is the right time to marry?

  1. Before 25
  2. Between 25-30
  3. Between 30-35
  4. After 35
  5. I don't think one should marry

Click here to fill in the survey (it is anonymous)

You can always write to me as well. I love getting your replies. I may not be able to reply to all of them, but I do read every single one of them.
I READ ALL MY EMAILS (baarish ke baad pahadon ki khushboo ki kasam!)

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warikoo Wanderings

by Ankur Warikoo

Entrepreneur, Author, Content Creator with 9M+ followers across platforms. I share this newsletter every Friday around personal growth, books, quotes, pictures - it is the most personal version of me online.

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