warikoo Wanderings

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WHY DO WE FEAR MISSING OUT?

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Growing up, the 4-letter word in our world was f**k.
Today it is FOMO.
The FEAR OF MISSING OUT.
Missing out on the things our friends are doing.
Missing out on the experiences others are sharing.
Missing out on the cool jobs people have.
Missing out on the shows they watch, the music they listen to.
Heck, missing out on some random dude posting on IG about some random person they met. And we are like, "Oh man, FOMO ho raha hai!"
Somehow EVERYONE is experiencing FOMO.

Why is that?

2 reasons:
Reason 1. Studies show that we feel pain of loss far more than we feel the joy of gain.
That explains why if people are asked to choose between 2 options:
Option 1: Lose Rs. 500 guaranteed.
Option 2: Spin a wheel, with 50% chances you will lose Rs. 1000 and 50% chances you will lose nothing.
Most of us will choose option 2 - because we hate option 1 where we are losing for sure.

FOMO, in our head, is losing for sure.
We know we lost out on the experience, the joy, the feelings that someone else is experiencing.
Fun fact: FOMO magnifies when we are doing something that we do not enjoy (for example, studying or working).

Reason 2: We have too many choices.
We suffer from choice abundance.
There are just too many choices to choose from.
​Learning to choose is hard. Learning to choose well is harder. And learning to choose well in a world of unlimited possibilities is harder still, perhaps too hard (Barry Schwartz)

While reason 1 has existed ever since humankind came into being, reason 2 above has been amplified because of social media.
At any given time, we have the ENTIRE WORLD telling us what they are up to.
And we cannot be potentially doing all of that.
While most of it is out of our reach (Shah Rukh Khan sharing his private jet pictures will give FOMO only to Salman Khan, not to us, I assume. And hope!), there is still a sizeable minority that seems within our reach.

That random friend having a lovely meal in Khan Market.
That random ex-colleague sharing their offsite pictures.
That random junior from school sharing their college pics, once its reopened after 2 years.
Anything can trigger FOMO.

I now know of several people who suffer from FOMO, not as a fun thing, but as a serious disorder. They are perpetually anxious, stressed, perturbed that someone out there is experiencing something that they are not.
And that paralyzes them.

It was some years back that Ravi, my nearbuy co-founder, introduced me to JOMO.
He is a wise person. So, when he shared the full-form of JOMO, I could instantly sense why he loved it.
JOMO means the JOY OF MISSING OUT.

When you miss out on something, you still have something else with you.
That moment.
That precise moment, which is yours.
NOBODY ELSE'S.
And all that you have in that moment, is yours.
The clothes you are wearing, the people you are with, the feelings you are with, the objects you are with, the food you are eating, the weather outside.
Everything is in your control.
And in your reach.

At that moment, when you see the picture of your friend enjoying it, close your eyes and breathe in what you have.
Let go of what your friend might be going through (which most likely is also FOMO, from their other friend), and remind yourself of this very moment you have with yourself.
Feel the joy of being in this moment.
Feel the joy of missing out - on what was never yours in the first place.

Vote for JOMO.
Not FOMO!
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BOOK I AM READING THIS WEEK

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I am STILL reading Pre-Suasion: A Revolutionary Way to Influence and Persuade and I wouldn't have it any other way. It is such a stunning read. I find myself making notes on every page and actually maintaining a record of how I can change my approach towards persuasion. HIGHLY Recommended.

I have 2 gorgeous books waiting for me. But this time, I am more excited to finish this book, than I am to start another :)

My book DO EPIC SHIT touched sales of 1,20,000+ and I will be announcing something to celebrate that. Stay tuned :)
If you haven't read it till now, you can consider ordering it here :)

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QUOTES TO SHARE

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No. Binge watching is not relaxing you. It is numbing you.
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Time is finite. Which is why you need learn how to manage it.
Money is infinite. Which is why you need to learn how to grow it.
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Advice is what we seek when we know the answer, but are scared to accept it.
​(Share on Twitter)​

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RESPONSES TO LAST WEEK'S QUESTION

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Last week I asked you:

Which one do you prefer?

1. Summer season
2. Winter season
3. Both are ok

Here are the responses:

Observations:

As you grow older, you realize winter season is better!
Because:
1. You can sleep for longer and it feels awesome.
2. You can afford to wear cool winter clothes. Irrespective of the temperature (yes Mumbai folks - talking to you here).
3. Goa is better during that time.

The end! :)

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PICTURE OF THE WEEK

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We went for our quarterly company offsite to Pondicherry this week and clicked this Polaroid photo on the last night.
In the pic (clockwise from left) are: Keyi, Rhea, Shaurya, Me, Nishtha, Supriya, Horia, Shivam, Gitanjali and Aditya.
Missing in the pic are Ruchi, Bhumika and Ruchika.

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QUESTION OF THE WEEK

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Which comics did you grow up reading?

1. Archies/Asterix/Tintin and the likes
2. Chacha Chaudhary/Pinki/Billoo and the likes
3. Super Commando Dhruv/Nagraj and the likes
4. Manga comics
5. Others

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CONTENT I SHARED THIS WEEK

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Podcast:​
Title of episode: Dealing with imposter syndrome
​Spotify, Amazon Music, Google Podcast, Apple Podcast, JioSaavn, Gaana or YouTube.

YouTube:​
Title of video: Where to invest for 1-3 years?
​You can watch it here.​

Instagram:​
Title of video: I lied to my parents
​You can watch it here.​

Twitter:​
Title of thread: 11 ways Indian parents go wrong
​You can read it here.​

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