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HOW DO YOU HANDLE DISAGREEMENTS?
Irrespective of how good a job we do, or how diligently we do it, we are invariably going to bump into someone that doesn't agree with us.
Doesn't agree with our point of view, or how we have done something, or our suggestion.
And unfortunately, we are never trained on how to handle disagreements.
In the absence of such training, we rely on our basic instincts.
And what do our basic instincts tell us?
Unfortunately, not something very smart.
Our brains, over millions of years, have evolved to do one thing really well.
Guard us against danger.
Earlier danger was in the form of wild animals, or erratic weather.
That form of danger doesn't exist as much anymore.
But the brain's job has remained the same.
Warn us of danger. And get us to act.
So today, when someone disagrees with us, our basic instincts tell us that the person is danger.
They are trying to threaten us, weaken us, confront us, argue with us, hurt us.
And since we have hardly had any learning on how to handle disagreements, our brain does what comes naturally to it.
We react.
And try to hurt back!
Ankur: "I think that people should xxxxx"
Random Person online: "Bakwaas advice. What a fake person you are, dude!"
Ankur (not trained on how to handle disagreements): "You are fake. Your family is fake. Your entire clan is fake!"
We have all been in this situation.
We don't know better. So we react.
Here is something that helped me a lot, in trying to understand disagreements:
This pyramid (I first saw it shared by Paul Graham on Twitter) is so powerful.
Here is how I use it:
In life, there are so many skills that we were never taught in school.
Managing money, time, relationships, career, etc.
Handling disagreements I believe is one such critical skill that was completely missed out on.
I hope this helps :)
BOOK I AM READING THIS WEEK
This week I picked up Booming Digital Stars: 11 Inspiring Journeys from India’s Creator Economy
A really nice, simple read chronicling the journey of 11 digital stars of India - from Bhuvan Bam to BeerBiceps, to Prajakta Koli to Abhi & Niyu.
Every story is wonderfully crafted to share how these stars became stars, their struggles, their success, and what we can learn from their journey.
While there are enough books around mega successes, I am glad there is a book that focused on this current generation of digital celebrities in a biographical manner. Pick it up for just the right dose of inspiration :)
My favorite story of all - Bhuvan Bam - what an incredible journey!
QUOTES TO SHARE
Some startups are so poor that all that they offer their employees is money!
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We find it hard to let go of things, when we are scared to start all over again, to build it from scratch!
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Your first step isn't special because it was your best.
Your first step is special because it was your start.
Start today!
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RESPONSES TO LAST WEEK'S QUESTION
Last week I asked you:
What do you in the last hour, before going to sleep at night?
Here are the responses:
So basically, 50% of us are spending time on a screen before going to bed :((
Isn't that tragic!
One big productivity hack, towards a good sleep - do not have a screen for at least 30 minutes before you go to bed!
Your life will change.
PICTURE OF THE WEEK
My team loves me - so they made this hilarious meme :))
THIS WEEK'S QUESTION
If there was a course created on "Skills we wish we were taught in school", then which of these would you include?
Click here to let me know your answer (anonymously)
CONTENT I SHARED THIS WEEK
Podcast:
Title of episode: Finding your passion
Spotify, Amazon Music, Google Podcast, Apple Podcast, JioSaavn or Gaana.
YouTube:
Title of video: My investment approach for 2022
You can watch it here.
Instagram:
Title of video: A funny dance with my sister to celebrate 1Mn subscribers
You can watch it here.
Twitter:
Title of thread: From 5 months of cash to $2Mn in 18 months
You can read it here.
You can, of course, always write to me by simply replying to this newsletter.
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