You forgive, for your own self.
There isn't a day when I do not get an email with such content:
"I was hurt/betrayed/abused. I am in pain. I am angry. I can't forgive this person ever, for what they did to me."
I understand the pain. Even the anger.
What I do not get is this decision to not forgive them.
You are not forgiving them for their benefit.
You are forgiving them for yourself.
There is a beautiful story about Nelson Mandela.
He was imprisoned for 27 years, often tortured and humiliated by the jailers at the prison.
He was released and eventually went on to become the President of South Africa.
For his swearing-in ceremony, he ensured that he invited all the jailers of the same prison he was in.
Others asked him, perplexed: "Why would you want to invite them? These are the same people who tortured you, humiliated you, and laughed at you while you were in prison."
To which, Nelson Mandela replied, "If I didn't invite them, I'd still be in prison."
He is often quoted to say:
As I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I didn't leave my bitterness and hatred behind, I'd still be in prison.
- Nelson Mandela
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The truth is - it is insanely hard to apologize.
But I have come to believe that it is equally hard, if not more, to accept an apology.
And it is the rarest of virtues to forgive, without an apology.
Because we are hurt, angry, resentful, jealous, envious, and bruised.
We wish for the other person to realize they are wrong.
Or to seek revenge for the wrong done to us.
Rarely stopping to recognize that not forgiving is only hurting us, in the process.
We repeat the chain of events in our head multiple times.
We keep thinking of what we should have said, how we should have reacted, and how we were fooled.
We go over the scene multiple times.
Over and over.
The other person hurt us just once, in reality.
But we hurt ourselves multiple times over, in thought!
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So, in forgiveness, lies our escape.
Our freedom.
Our peace.
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Finished reading Same as Ever: Timeless Lessons on Risk, Opportunity and Living a Good Life by Morgan Housel (author of Psychology of Money).
Really nice read. Full of fun, insightful, and hard-hitting stories.
Thoroughly enjoyed the read.
Did not pick up another book.
Here is a list of all the books I have read, while writing this newsletter (in alphabetical order).
Results of last week's survey
How much do you earn per month?
Not surprisingly, as age progresses, income progresses.
Avg income for 23-30 years is 50K.
Avg income for 30s is closer to 1L.
For those beyond 40s is closer to 1.5L, I assume.
The more important part is - are they happy with this salary or not?
Here are the results:
Most are not happy :(((
And that right there, is a problem, my friend.
My response:
I earn 5L per month and I am extremely happy with the salary.
Quotes to share
The true role of money is NOT to buy things.
The true role of money is to grant us freedom - over our time, our choices, and the way in which we lead our lives.
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Everybody can create value.
Everybody can build wealth.
It doesn’t have to come at anybody's expense.
There can be multiple winners.
In the game of money. In the game of life.
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Money will not change you.
It will reveal you.
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In this section, I share my week in pictures, for those who do not like to read as much as I write :))
I do so not to show how cool a life I live, but instead to show you what are the highlights of every day. As you will see over time, my days are mostly in repeat mode - the same things, but different experiences from them.
Spending this week on the final edit of the book - this is the start of Make Epic Money :))
Went to Andhra Bhawan for their awesome thali. Highly recommended if you are in Delhi, or visiting and like South Indian food.
Went to the The Piano Man - in my opinion, the prettiest restaurant in the city. They have live music almost every day and the one we went to (in Malviya Nagar - the newest one) is huge and super gorgeous.
New studio background :))
Thanks to all of you - we sold just shy of 25,000 copies of Make Epic Money, generating 1Cr worth of sales but more importantly, giving away 72Cr worth of freebies to be availed!
That's it for the week in pictures. Have a lovely weekend and week ahead, all of you lovelies :)))
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